Think You Know How to Flirt? New Research Says You Don’t
You thought you were being so obvious with your jokey comments and playful arm-punches. After all, you don’t brush lint off anyone’s jacket. You don’t gently teaseeveryone when they take an...
View ArticleGetting Over Single ‘Shame’
After being unattached for 11 years, Sue had just started dating someone who had a lot of relationship experience, and she was embarrassed by her thin relationship resume. “How do I let go my feelings...
View ArticlePortrait of a Failed Pickup (and a Postscript)
I recently received a letter from a man named Mark, who asked for advice on giving women compliments. He had met a nice woman at an art galley and they chatted for about half an hour. Mark was...
View ArticleHere’s something wonderful to listen to
Producer Lea Thau on KCRW’s Strangers discusses the pain of dating in these times. She also shares her own story: Love Hurts.
View ArticleWant to Impress Someone? Don’t Try
Many years ago, I was talking to a woman at a party about relationships and mentioned that I hadn’t been in one for ages. She told me this wasn’t a problem for her. She always had a boyfriend—her...
View ArticleOne of the most beautiful, raw portraits of dating that I’ve ever heard
If you haven’t been listening to Lea Thau’s amazing series “Love Hurts” on KCRW’s Strangers radio show, I urge you to. It is one of the smartest, rawest and most honest portraits of love and dating I...
View ArticleWhy I Waited Until I Was Married To Write a Book About Being Single
Several years ago, I was dining out with a friend when he asked about my love life. I confessed there was nothing to report—I hadn’t dated anyone in ages. So he did the thing people do when confronted...
View ArticleI won’t be signing books at this weekend course, but I will be washing dishes
In It’s Not You, I talk a lot about how meditation and Buddhism helped me manage the stress of being single in a society centered around couples and families. My Buddhist studies have continued to help...
View ArticleAfter the Breakup: ‘How Did I Miss the Signs?’
Dear Sara, I just emerged from a two-month relationship that ended very unkindly. The guy suddenly went missing in action for days, appeared later with some very dodgy-sounding excuses, and then...
View ArticleCouple Envy: ‘Why Am I Such a Terrible Person?’
Dear Sara, I am single and have a few single friends, but most of my friends are couples. And one of these couples is very tight—they met a few years ago and have been in constant bliss ever since. I...
View ArticleYoung Single Women: Many People Don’t Want You to Vote. That’s an Excellent...
Late last month, a panel of Fox News commentators discussed the coming elections when host Kimberly Guilfoyle explained why she didn’t think young single women should vote: It’s the same reason why...
View ArticleMy latest piece for The BBC: The Dark Side of the Sharing Economy
I have a new piece on BBC Capital Today about the sharing economy. Here’s how it starts: A few years ago, a large event in Saskatoon usually meant more business for the Chaplin Country Bed and...
View ArticleCalling all twentysomething women, especially Latina women
I’m writing a short article for Cosmo for Latinas about how to make friends. And I’m seeking young woman who can tell me how they successfully befriended women they met in the following places: 1)...
View ArticleQ&A: ‘Where Did All My Friends Go?’
Dear Sara: One thing I really miss about being in a relationship is the immediate and intense community it has always brought me. When I’m part of a couple, I am constantly invited to dine with other...
View ArticleWant to Impress Someone? Don’t Try
Many years ago, I was talking to a woman at a party about relationships and mentioned that I hadn’t been in one for ages. She told me this wasn’t a problem for her. She always had a boyfriend—her...
View ArticleOne of the most beautiful, raw portraits of dating that I’ve ever heard
If you haven’t been listening to Lea Thau’s amazing series “Love Hurts” on KCRW’s Strangers radio show, I urge you to. It is one of the smartest, rawest and most honest portraits of love and dating I...
View ArticleWhy I Waited Until I Was Married To Write a Book About Being Single
Several years ago, I was dining out with a friend when he asked about my love life. I confessed there was nothing to report—I hadn’t dated anyone in ages. So he did the thing people do when confronted...
View ArticleSingle on Thanksgiving: Quick Answers to Your Relatives’ Most Annoying Questions
The questions arise when you’re passing the potatoes or putting out the nut cups. Are you seeing anyone special? Playing the field? When are you going to settle down? Singles are often grilled about...
View ArticleHow do you navigate dating during the holidays?
Dating during the holidays can be tricky. How long should you date before you exchange gifts? When is the appropriate time to invite a new boyfriend or girlfriend to your family’s house or as your date...
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